A few friendship thoughts and expectations that went through my mind lately:
1. Real friends are those who are there for fun times and for bad times. Even if they tend to judge, they finally realize that judging is not the answer, but accepting each other, as imperfect as we all are. Friends should be the ones who should be able to see the beauty in each other. No matter how big are the differences.
2. Friends should be honest. Always. Even if it hurts. That’s the only way to evolve. “Friends know what you want them to know about you. Best friends know what you don’t even know about yourself. And True friends help you build yourself from all they know” -Jessica Spellman
3. Friends should always try to be honest with each other only in private. Never in public talking with other friends about issues that you were never approached for a talk. Doing it in public is complaining and gossiping. It’s not solving the problems in a friendship. And it sucks. Especially when they judge, when they think they are being honest regarding their opinion….it might be just a wrong perception, not a truth….but once it’s out, it can hurt badly, because it comes from a friend that you trust, but you feel they betrayed your trust in public. Plus …How else can you ever give them your trust if you know they can always burst out in public talking freely about you, sometimes about things that are not for real?
“A friend is someone that has the courage to tell you that you are wrong”. If I happen to be wrong, you say you’re a friend if you speak directly your mind about me…in public, in front of other friends. I say you’re a friend if you speak directly your mind…only in my presence. How could I ever trust you with my thoughts otherwise? True friends, like ivy and the wall stand together and both together fall.
4. Cherish the friendship before your pride. Forgive when a dear friend is hurting you, tell them that you care for them with or without any special occasion, even if they will not admit wrong or apologize. Apologize when you realize you hurt a dear friend.
”I know you can’t hear me, but can’t you just listen?” (Garfield)
Everyone hears what you say.
Friends listen to what you say.
Best friends listen to what you don’t say.
“In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies,
but the silence of our friends.”
~ Martin Luther King Jr.